The Break Free Weekly Newsletter - Edition #9
Porn-Free Christmas Pledge
Opening Remarks: Porn-Free Christmas Pledge
Christmas is just two days away - a time to give gifts, share meaningful moments with loved ones, and for Christians, celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. It’s a season meant for joy, connection, and reflection. Yet vices like porn can quietly steal away that joy, dampening the true spirit of this special time.
This Christmas, I challenge you to take a stand. This Christmas will be one to remember - not for what you consumed, but for the freedom you chose. This Christmas, take the pledge to stay sober from porn use and allow yourself to fully experience the peace, joy, and love this season offers!
Featured Articles
Finding Your Why - Porn Free Millennial Article
“Without understanding your “Why,” breaking free from any addiction or problematic relationship can feel like an endless battle. My battle for most of my conscious life has been with porn. Learning from 5 years of intentional recovery, an essential part of living free from porn is understanding your why. When your why becomes a part of your identity, you can truly begin the road to recovery with a sustainable source of fuel.”
Overcoming the Bonds of Pornography - Co-Authored Porn Free Millennial &
By far, the most searched-for terms on the internet are related to pornography. So, the most searched-for terms on the internet are related to sin. Pornography is rampant in the world today, the internet is saturated with porn, and we can see porn on TV…There is indeed something sinister at work here since the union of the internet, the smartphone, and the completely anonymous/accessible/affordable nature of modern day pornography. Pornography has been widely accepted by “popular culture” as something that people just do in private to satisfy their natural urges with the complete absence of its harmful effects on our soul’s relationship with God and the people in our lives. However, despite what people say about it being harmless, the evidence proves that pornography is extremely harmful…
Lonely Fans - The Lily Phillips Controversy and Our Culture of Isolation (with Dr. Gregory Borse)
In this episode of the Porn Free Millennial Podcast (livestreamed initially on my X account - Mac_Nomadic), Dr. and I delve into the shocking story of OnlyFans model Lily Phillips, who recently gained notoriety for her decision to sleep with 100 men in a single day as part of a documentary. We discuss the deeper implications of this story, examining the impact of platforms like OnlyFans and the adult entertainment industry on loneliness, intimacy, and society as a whole. Through research, personal reflection, and open conversation, we explore how this industry fuels an epidemic of disconnection and what we can do to reclaim our dignity, faith, and purpose.
Practical Tips: Set Boundaries
A key strategy for consistent success in overcoming porn use is establishing proper boundaries - starting from within. Internal boundaries act as safeguards, helping you navigate triggers and temptations effectively.
These boundaries will look different for everyone, depending on your personal habits and the level of compulsion you may experience. For some, it might mean removing access to triggering content or apps and for others, it could involve setting time limits on device usage or being intentional about where and how they spend their time.
On a deeper level, boundaries also apply to your thought life and actions in public. For example, it means being mindful of where your eyes go and refusing to indulge in a prolonged gaze if someone attractive catches your attention. Small choices like this help reinforce discipline and self-control.
The more intentional you are about setting boundaries, the sharper your judgment will become when a triggering experience threatens to initiate the ritual of watching porn.
Boundaries aren’t about restriction - they’re about creating a space where you can thrive and remain aligned with your values.
Community Spotlight
Glory to God & 20 Years of Freedom - Brandon
“I think your story is similar in that there were a lot of years to find relief and healing. But I was blessed that God seemed to accelerate that change in my mid 20s, as if to prepare me for marriage. I'm happy to say it's not been a chain on me for almost 20 years.”
Reflection
The best day to start recovery is today. Not tomorrow. Today.
Additional Resources
Book of the Month that I am currently reading
Takedown: Inside the Fight to Shut Down Pornhub for Child Abuse, Rape, and Sex Trafficking by Laila Micklewait
Porn Free Millennial Podcast of the Week:
27. Conquering Temptation with Vern Tompke
Episode Overview: In this episode Vern and I unpack 3 the Whats of Conquering Temptation - 1. Then What, 2. So What, 3. Now What.
As we discuss the concept of temptation and how to conquer it on a day-to-day basis, think about how you can implement this in your daily routine.
Vern Tompke is a pastor and mentor as well as the host of two amazing podcasts: Finding Traction and Pastors on Porn.
Vern also leads 1:1 and group coaching which can be found on his site: Bandofbrothers.care.
Apps to Help You Stay Focused On Your Recovery:
Freedom - Blocks distracting apps
Stay Focused - Limits your screen time
I am Sober - Tracks your sobriety down to the second
1:1 Momentum Building Sessions
Are you feeling stuck on your journey to living a porn-free life? Do you want personalized guidance to help you take the next step toward freedom? Sometimes, breaking the cycle requires more than just willpower—it requires a plan, tailored to you.
That’s why I’m offering 1:1 Momentum Building Sessions—personalized coaching designed to help you identify the obstacles holding you back, set actionable goals, and build the momentum you need to move forward.
Ready to take the next step? I’m offering a free 30-minute consultation to explore your goals, challenges, and how coaching can support your journey.
📧 Email me at pornfreemillennialcoaching@gmail.com or send me a direct message to schedule your free consultation.
Let’s work together to help you live the life you were meant for - stronger, healthier, and free.
Closing Remarks: Be the Light
By taking the Porn-Free Christmas Pledge, you’re choosing joy, freedom, and renewal - not just for yourself but for those around you. When the pure fire within you burns hot and bright, it becomes a beacon. Your commitment and example can inspire others to seek their own path to freedom.
This Christmas, be the light. Let the joy and peace of your decision shine in your actions, your words, and your presence. Together, we can reflect the hope and love this season is truly about.
