The Blackmail You Consent To
The Break Free Weekly Newsletter - Edition #34
We’re shocked by what we see in the news.
The Diddy footage. The Epstein files.
The testimonies, the trafficking, the blackmail.
It’s horrifying.
We shake our heads.
We post about justice.
We say things like “monsters like that need to be taken down.”
And then…
We open our phones.
We scroll.
We click.
We justify it.
It’s not real.
It’s just pixels.
It’s not the same.
But let’s be honest, aren’t the people on those screens real?
Aren’t many of them trafficked, manipulated, underage, exploited?
And aren’t we feeding the same vile beast?
We don’t like to admit it.
But when you consume the product, you become part of the pipeline.
It isn’t just watching, it’s participating.
This isn’t some foil hat conspiracy theory but in a real system of exploitation worth billions of dollars.
And this industry is also grooming you to stay quiet.
You’re Being Watched - Not Just Watching
Here’s what most people don’t know or know but don’t want to admit.
The moment you land on a porn site, you’re being tracked.
Not just what you watch - but how long you watch it, where you came from, what device you're on.
It’s logged.
It’s packaged.
It’s sold.
That’s the business model.
Porn sites don’t need you to pay - they make money by catching your attention and releasing your information to the highest bidder.
You seriously think no one’s watching?… someone always is.
You think you’re anonymous in incognito mode?
You’re not.
You're just owned by a system that profits when you stay ashamed and silent.
That’s the real blackmail.
They bank on your shame and silence.
And that’s what keeps you trapped in isolation, that’s what will be the cancer in your relationship, that’s what will splinter your love life and leave your life in shattered pieces - only for porn to be there to be your solution.
The Gateway Drug Is in Your Feed
Think you’re in the clear because you’re not watching porn?
Open YouTube. Instagram. TikTok.
The soft-core sex is everywhere.
“Just reels.”
“Just a trend.”
“Just a dance.”
But it’s not just an innocent dance.
It’s the setup.
It’s the sample before the hard stuff, the gateway drug.
These platforms are grooming machines, designed to hijack your attention and test your boundaries.
And the moment you take the bait, the algorithm gives you more.
More skin. More bounce. More dopamine.
You’re not in control.
You’re being conditioned.
And it’s all dressed up as entertainment.
The Cost Isn’t Just Time - It’s Identity
This isn't just your wasting time.
This is wasting you.
You lose confidence.
You lose connection.
You start to drift from your purpose.
And before you know it, you’re not even sure who you are anymore.
You start lying to yourself.
Then to others.
Then to the people who love you most.
This is not because you’re a bad person.
This is because your shame is louder than your voice, your integrity, your identity.
And that silence? That’s what makes the blackmail work.
So How Do You Break Out?
This isn’t about willpower.
This isn’t about “Quitting Porn”.
This isn’t about burrowing in your shame or trying to white-knuckling your way out.
It starts with three simple, but hard, moves.
1. Honesty
Say the thing you’ve been hiding.
Start with yourself.
Then share with those who you trust - the ones who want the best for you.
You can’t heal what you won’t name.
When you finally get real and get honest, you will start to take the power back.
2. Humility
Pride will keep you in a state of pretend.
Humility says, “I need help”.
If you could’ve fixed this alone, you would’ve by now.
Seek help from someone ahead of you, someone that is battle-tested and that has your back.
Humility opens the door to real accountability and real healing.
3. Horizon
You need a “why” that’s bigger than the urge.
Not just quitting.
Becoming.
Becoming the man you were meant to be.
The husband. The father. The friend. The creator. The leader.
That future version of you is calling you forward.
And every “no” to porn is a “yes” to that man you are meant to become.
Let This Be the Day
This over-sexualized landscape is dark and you’ve been living in it - I lived in it for more than 20 years.
But you don’t have to stay hidden.
You don’t have to stay captive.
You don’t have to keep playing the game.
You don’t have to live in fear of being found out.
You can walk in the light.
You can speak your truth.
You can become the kind of man who doesn’t flinch when his phone lights up.
We’re not walking out alone.
We’re breaking free together.
Join the freedom movement.
Say the truth.
And take back what was always yours.
Your integrity.
Your identity.
Your freedom.
The Mass Trauma of Porn
👉 Guest Article: The Mass Trauma of Porn by
What if the trauma we’re ignoring is the one quietly reshaping a generation?
This week’s guest article is a must-read (if you haven’t read it yet) and opens with a gut-punch of how a young girl was introduced to porn before she even knew what love was (relatable to my own story).
This is a sad reality for millions of kids holding smartphones right now.
If you've ever wondered why recovery is so hard, or why the pull of porn runs deeper than willpower, this essay reveals how we were groomed before we ever had a chance.
Read this if you're ready to face the system that shaped you and fight for something better.
✍️ This is a Porn Free Millennial poem that describes what it feels like to be seduced, consumed, and left hollow by the vampire we keep feeding.
🎙️Podcast Clip: , , and I unpack why porn is a modern day technological vampire.
Community Spotlight:
Kind words from ! Thanks Michael for being a true brother on Substack and how thoughtful you are. I am sure that I am not the only one who is and has experienced Kintsugi occur in their life. We glisten when our cracks are filled with grace!
Make sure to give Michael a follow - he’s an encourager and a kind soul.
52 Weeks of Freedom Series
52 Weeks of Freedom Series: Welcome to 2025, the year of Undivided Triumph! I'm dedicated to helping you achieve a porn-free year with a structured, week-by-week plan, a post each Friday this year, that builds a strong foundation for your future.
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For the whole collection - see this section of my publication.
Reflection
We were groomed to conform and sold a fantasy. Don’t be like all the others. Break free.
Additional Resources
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Right Thing, Right Now by Ryan Holiday
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Challenge of the Week: Break the Algorithmic Mold
This week, reject the default.
The industry wants you to be predictable.
The algorithm wants you to conform.
Porn wants you numb, silent, and the same as every other man it traps.
But you weren’t created to be like everyone else, you were created to be you.
Your challenge:
Delete or block one app, site, or content source this week that feeds you the same mindless scroll.
Create instead of consume - write something, record something, reflect something that’s yours.
Tell someone the truth - about your story, your struggle, or your standards. Refuse to hide.
Freedom begins where conformity ends.
Don’t be just another data point, another cog in the industry machine.
Be a man with a direction and with autonomy.
Final Thought
You were not made to be molded into mush by an algorithm.
You were made to forge a path that’s real, raw, and yours.
The longer you stay silent, the more power the system has.
But the moment you speak, create, and step away from the script - you begin the defiant work of becoming free.
You’re not a category.
You’re not a fetish.
You’re not a user.
You’re a man in the making.
And this week, you get to choose who you’re becoming.
Much Love,
Mac
Break Free.
Stay Free.
Be Free.
Keep fighting the good fight!
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It’s so hard to consider that these phones and the internet in general are tracking us. Who hasn’t had a conversation in the presence of their phones and mysteriously had things show up in the ads next time you go online? Like you were talking about changing your water heater, and then you get ads for water heaters because the devices are listening in.
So then you go to a porn site. Of your own volition. Now they’ve got you.