One Day at a Time | More than a Mantra
52 Weeks of Freedom - Week 15
This yearlong weekly journey is designed to help you break free from what I call the porn prison - a state of mental, emotional, and spiritual confinement caused by porn consumption. This prison traps individuals in cycles of shame, isolation, and disconnection, making it difficult to live a life of purpose and fulfillment.
Each Friday for the full year of 2025, I’ll dive into a key aspect of recovery, provide practical tools, and challenge you to take meaningful steps toward lasting freedom. Whether you’re just starting your journey or already working toward healing, this series offers encouragement, clarity, and structure to help you build and sustain a new, liberated identity.
One Day at a Time
There are days when the mountain ahead feels massive. Days when you feel behind, ashamed, or like you’ll never outrun the past.
But here’s the truth I keep coming back to throughout the 6 years of recovery that breaks me out of my funk → the truth I have to whisper to myself when the pressure builds:
“Just today. That’s all you have to win.”
Not forever.
Not even this week.
Just today.
That’s the heart of this Friday’s mantra:
One day at a time.
Why This Mantra Matters:
"One day at a time" isn’t just fluffy recovery language, it’s spiritual survival.
It’s how we rebuild a life that was once crumbling.
It’s how we walk out of addiction’s fog without collapsing under the weight of everything we think we have to fix all at once.
Porn addiction, like all compulsions, thrives on extremes:
“I’ll never be free.”
“I’ve already failed this week.”
“What’s the point of trying again?”
But "One day at a time" destroys that lie.
It brings your focus back to where your power actually is → the power of right now, today, the present.
Today Is Holy Ground
You don’t need to climb the entire mountain in a day.
You just need to put your boots on and take a step.
Embrace the moment.
Create space.
Text your accountability partner.
Turn the phone off.
Go for a walk.
Pray.
Journal.
Breathe.
That’s how you break free → not in a mad rush, but in daily surrender of the unclear future and an acceptance of what you can do today.
What Recovery Actually Looks Like
“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.”
– James Clear, Atomic Habits
You don’t become a different person overnight, you cast votes every single day.
And while one slip doesn’t erase your progress, every faithful decision → no matter how small → stacks toward the transformation you're chasing.
Recovery is often quiet.
It’s deciding not to go back to your old life while you are brushing your teeth.
It’s pressing play on a podcast that lifts you instead of a tab that tempts you.
That may not feel like much in the moment…
But in the words of Clear:
“Changes that seem small and unimportant at first will compound into remarkable results if you're willing to stick with them for years.”
Recovery isn’t found in huge, heroic gestures.
It’s found in these small, daily victories, stacked like bricks, building a new identity.
So keep stacking your foundation of integrity and a renewed identity.
Keep voting for the person who you desire to become.
Keep showing up for your future self with the actions of today.
The breakthrough you’re praying for isn’t waiting in the distance.
It’s being built, one day at a time.
Affiliate Partnership – Why I Recommend Ever Accountable
I don’t promote anything I wouldn’t personally use or trust with my own recovery.
That’s why I’ve partnered with Ever Accountable the accountability software I use myself and recommend.
Porn thrives in secrecy.
But recovery requires visibility and friction and that’s exactly what this software creates.
It’s not about shame.
It’s about support.
When you know someone else can see what you’re doing online, the decision to relapse gets interrupted.
You’re no longer isolated in the moment, you’re reminded that your actions matter, and someone has your back.
I often tell people:
“You don’t break free from porn prison alone. You break free from porn prison together.”
Tools like Ever Accountable make together possible, even if you’re physically walking this out solo.
💡 Why I Recommend It:
It adds friction. Temptation thrives in ease. This adds resistance.
It removes secrecy. When someone else can see your screen, the pull of relapse weakens.
It builds trust. With yourself and with others. No more hiding.
It fits into your life. Works on phones, tablets, laptops → whatever your daily environment includes.
PS - Accountability Software Episode is on the calendar for May, stay tuned!
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Challenge for the Weekend
Let’s make this practical.
Recovery is lived in the micro-decisions.
So this weekend, I’m challenging you to simplify your focus.
Here’s your Weekend Mission:
Each morning, before you grab your phone or open your laptop, speak this out loud:
“I’m not promised tomorrow.
I’m not stuck in yesterday.
I’m showing up today, one day at a time.”
Pick one small win you can claim each day:
Go on a walk without headphones and pray.
Journal 3 things you’re grateful for.
Tell your accountability partner how you’re really doing.
Put your phone in another room when temptation hits.
Go to bed 30 minutes earlier.
Write it down somewhere visible:
Sticky note
Lock screen
Journal
Mirror
Check it off when it’s done.
You don’t need a perfect weekend.
You just need a focused one.
Inspiration
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